Interesting insights from men in yet another Fark dating thread... in this case, how "the introduction" might be like Grand Central.
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"Skullduggery": The attention I get over my appearance is much less wanted than the attention I get from something I'm saying or doing.
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"rewind2846": I get that, but you have to understand that the guy who's approaching you is running countless conversations in his head in the few seconds he has to make his opening statement to you. He realizes he could really fark up any chance he has with you by saying the wrong thing, so he usually goes for the simplest choice available.
His mind is like Grand Central Station in New York city X100,000, with all the tracks full and all the platforms crowded and it's 9am on monday morning and every train is late. He doesn't know if the book you're carrying is yours, if you bought if for a friend, if you hated it and are taking it back, or what.
There is no time for lengthy analysis or introspection or insight, you must say something. Anything. NOW. Before she leaves. And it must not scare her off, and hopefully make her smile and want to keep talking to you.
Most women, especially those who have never tried to introduce themselves to a guy, are clueless about all this. It's part of being a man in this society, so we deal with it... but that doesn't make it any easier... so don't fault us guys too much. We do the best we can.
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